When Chronic Pain Takes Over, Choose To Focus On Your Mind

32423501 - beautiful young lady thinking with question marks overheadMind over matter is a term that means to overcome physical trials through mental willpower. It’s probably an idea you learned about in elementary school. It’s an idea that is likely more meaningful to those of us who are dealing with chronic pain than most people.

Choosing to mentally overcome your physical struggles is a reality for those of us with chronic pain. It’s hard. It takes courage and strength. And when you probably first learned about mind over matter, you didn’t understand just how important it would become to you later on in your life. So when your chronic pain takes over and life seems like just too much to bear, don’t forget to think about the principles of mind over matter.

These are just some of the things you should remember about mentally overcoming your physical trials.

Mind over matter doesn’t mean that you can will your chronic pain to go away.

You might hear people tell you that you can simply just, “Be happy.” They may say that the pain is just in your head and if you just decide not to be in pain, everything will be okay. This isn’t true. We honestly can’t tell you that your brain can make this serious, real disease go away.

Instead, you can stay positive, become determined to combat the disease, and understand that there is so much more to your life than this disease. You can’t make the disease go away, but you can make sure that it doesn’t destroy your life and happiness. You can find ways to live regardless of chronic pain you’re experiencing.

Your brain can be your best friend or your worst enemy.

When you’re dealing with chronic pain, your brain can make or break the way you move forward with your life. It can turn to depression and loneliness. It can create a world that is full of despair and no will to fight for your life. Or, it can become a force of determination. It can constantly remind you of all the great things in your life. It can keep you motivated to go to doctor appointments and find ways to keep your body moving. It’s up to you to decide which role your brain should take in this new diagnosis.

You get to decide what your destiny is, regardless of the trials you’ve been dealt.

We sometimes think that we are completely helpless to the trails that come to us in this life. While we can’t ever know or decide everything in our future, we can decide who we’re going to be and what we’re going to do with our lives.

You may be a woman who has chronic pain. But that won’t stop you from being a mom. It won’t stop you from being a wife. Your chronic pain doesn’t get to decide everything about you. It will take a lot of time and effort to fight to define your own life, but it is possible. Your destiny and who you are as a person can only be defined by you and your mind. It won’t ever be defined only by the way your physical body feels and reacts.

Next time you think about your chronic pain diagnosis, remember that you have more power over the illness than you might think. You are so much more than the disease you’re currently battling. Your mind can work in powerful and mysterious ways to help you through just about anything. You have the ability to create a future for yourself that doesn’t have to be defined by the pain & fatigue you feel right now. We hope this gives you some ideas at how to move forward with your life, regardless of the physical hurdles that probably lie ahead for you.



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Katie Cleary is founder of  She lives with her autoimmune conditions and her family in Austin, Texas.

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  1. I refused muscle relaxers because they didn’t work for my muscle spasms. I refused opioids and pain killers of any kind.

    My muscle spasms and pain became so severe my mind degraded. I couldn’t think of focus because the pain was distracting.

    I used deep yogic breathing to lower my pain level. The deep breathing oxygenates the blood which helps with stress and pain, I took Curcumin for inflammation relief and ate a low sugar diet to control inflammation. This helped, but didn’t get me to the finish line.

    My doctor suggested I use CBD Oil for pain relief. She had tied it herself and got good results. I rolled my eyes at her, but decided to try it anyway,

    I bought 20:1 ratio of CBD Oil. It’s 20 Paris CBD (doesn’t make you high) and 1 part THC (the part that makes you high). This is what I use in the morning. I drop the drops under my tongue, hold it there for 1-3 minutes, swish it around in my mouth to get on my skin and then swallow it. This is absorbed through the skin and not an edible.

    With the Oil I feel it in about 2 hours. It’s not fast, but it does the trick. This varies per person.

    In the evening I use a 1:1 ratio. 1 part CBD and 1 part THC, I’m not driving, so it’s okay.

    I didn’t really feel better until about 3-4 weeks of continuous use. CBD must build up in the body before you see pain relief results. Give it time. It’s not an immediate fix.

    Before I started using CBD Oil I felt like someone beat me from head to toe with a baseball bat. Everything hurt. My muscles spasmed, were tight, in knots and painful to the touch. Even a simple hug was painful for me.

    My joints hurt and were incredibly uncomfortable. I don’t know who was hitting me with the baseball bat, but they sure did a good job of bribing me pain! Oh boy!

    My hands felt like they were being sawed into pieces. My feet felt like they were being crushed in a vice grip. I would lose muscle strength and drop silverware, pens and my hands would spasm to open up when I wanted to hold something. I dropped a lot of items.

    I’ve been using CBD Oil for 7 months now and it’s been life changing for me. My pain is way, way down and some days are even pain-free. My muscle spasms are significantly less. I no longer drop things.

    My brain functions significantly better because I’m no longer dealing with brain fog. My mom’s is back!

    My mood is much improved. I’m no longer grumpy because I feel awful.

    I look happier and much more friendly because I’m no longer grimacing in pain or focusing on what doesn’t hurt (that’s the shorter list than the list of what does hurt).

    My life has really turned around. I was skeptical about medical marijuana, but now I’m a believer. I was won over.

    Unfortunately, since California went fully recreational the state wasn’t ready and many medicinal products I got last year won’t be available until April at the earliest. The state legislature decided to meddle in medical marijuana once we went to recreational. Go figure?

    If you’re in a state with legal medical marijuana why not try it out? It works for me. My pain level is practically nonexistent now.

    Good luck everyone on your path to recovery and wellness.

  2. Sorry for the mistakes in my post. I’m writing on my phone and the font is really, really tiny.

    House burned down, everything gone, laptop gone. Had phone in my hand when I ran. Still a bit frazzled.

    Please forgive typos.

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