Chronic Life Lessons: The Journey of Self-Positivity With An Autoimmune Disease

51356326_MWhen you have an autoimmune disease, it’s easy to get down on yourself. If you have kids, it can be even more stressful. It isn’t difficult to be hard on yourself because things you used to do so easily now take a long time and a lot of effort. Even simply taking your children out for ice cream can keep you in bed for the next three days.

We completely understand that this aspect of having an autoimmune disease is difficult. Those around you will often fail to understand why you can’t just simply stay positive and understand that it’s your autoimmune disease that’s doing this to you, and nothing else. We can give you some direction on how you can work on self-positivity.

So how can you find self positivity as you’re working through your new life with an autoimmune disease?

Search for small solutions.

You likely won’t get anywhere with your self positivity if you’re constantly focusing on the bigger picture. Yes, your autoimmune disease is a huge trial in your life. Yes, it will cause lots of other trials along the way. But you will only get discouraged if you’re always focusing on the disease. It isn’t a problem that can be solved in a week or two. Instead, focus on the smaller problems – such as finding the energy to take your kids to get ice cream or finding a diet that will make you feel a little bit better every day. The smaller solutions will help you find peace with the larger problems, because they can usually be solved in a shorter amount of time. They also give you something to focus on when your disease flares up.

Focus on gratitude.

One way to see yourself more positively is simply by focusing on the people around you and what you’re truly grateful to have. You can make a list of all the things that you’re grateful for in one sitting, or you can simply focus on one thing you feel blessed to have every day. One great thing about gratitude is that it’s a completely positive emotion, and it doesn’t take a ton of effort to express. Sure, there will be days when you have less to be thankful for than you’d like. But there’s still something to be grateful for every single day, even if it’s just the doctor you have or the fact that you have a little more energy that day.

Have a support group.

There will be days – probably lots of days – in your future where you just need someone else to pick you up and give you the courage to keep going. Support groups help you stay positive when you are feeling down and out. These are the people who will be there for you when you can’t depend on yourself. And that’s absolutely okay! You shouldn’t have to depend on yourself when you’re suffering from an autoimmune disease. Support groups can be as simple as your close family members, or they can be a support group you find online or through your doctor’s office. These are people who understand what you’re going through and can help look at yourself in a positive light whenever you need it. Sometimes all you need is to lean on someone.

Remember that even when things look down, it is possible to stay on the bright side. It is possible to stay positive even as you’re dealing with your autoimmune disease. After all, living a chronic life doesn’t necessarily mean living with chronic negativity, especially when it comes to how you see yourself. Stay positive, it may just help you more than you think.


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Katie Cleary is founder of  She lives with her autoimmune conditions and her family in Austin, Texas.

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  1. Thank you so much for posting this! 💜 I really needed to read some encouragement today, I definitely have been feeling yuck and my second son is due in a month.

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