Finding An Autoimmune Diagnosis: How To Prepare For An Overnight Doctor Visit Away From Your Kids

58409064_M (2)When you have an autoimmune disease, doctor appointments become part of your everyday life. This can sometimes even include trips to doctors in other areas of the country. These overnight doctor appointments can take you away from your kids for several days at a time. For a mom, this can be an extremely difficult challenge. We understand that it’s not easy to leave them, even if you know it’s for your own good. It’s just one of the challenges of having an autoimmune disease.

If you’re preparing for a doctor appointment to help you with your autoimmune disease, there will likely be some anxiety about leaving your kids. We hope this article helps you ease that anxiety and gives you some ideas for how to help your kiddos while you are apart.

There are some things you can do to ensure this doctor’s visit away from your kids is positive for you and your babies.

Be clear and honest to your kiddos about where you’re going.
By this point in your health journey, your sweet kids likely already know that something is up. They probably know that you’re sick and trying to get better. You’ve raised bright kids. Be a proud mama about that.

It doesn’t help you or your children to lie about what’s going on. You don’t need to explain every detail to your kids, but it’s a good idea to make sure they’re aware of what to expect.

If your kids know somethings up, but you aren’t being honest, they may worry that something is really wrong. It helps to explain that your trip to the hospital has been planned. And that you’re optimistic it’s going to help you find answers about your autoimmune disease.

Make sure your kids are staying with someone you can count on.
You’re going to worry about your kids while you’re away. This is probably especially true if you don’t spend nights away from your sweet kiddos very often. Make sure you have them stay with someone you truly trust.

If you can, it’s a good idea to plan ahead and really put some thought into who will watch your kids while you’re away. This could be a neighbor, sibling, friend or parent. It’s really anyone who you will feel comfortable watching over your babies.

If there’s time, you could even plan a couple of test runs to see who your kids seem to work best with. This is a great way to make sure you feel totally comfortable leaving your kids with someone else.

You also need to remember that this doctor appointment away from your family may not be the only one. This is just part of life with an autoimmune disease. It’s a great idea to find a couple of people in your support system who you can count on to watch your kids whenever these doctor visits take place in the future.

Plan ahead with activities, treats and games for your kids.
If you feel that your kids are nervous about staying with someone else while you’re away, you may try to find some simple ways to ease their anxieties. Think about what your kids are excited about. Can you plan some activities or gifts for them so they can feel more excited than anxious?

Consider putting together a care package with some of their favorite treats, books, games, movies or anything else they love. You can even leave notes letting them know how much you love them.

Understand that this is in your best interest, as well as theirs.
Your kids lives will be infinitely happier and brighter if you can become healthier and brighter yourself. This means that every doctor’s appointment and trip away is worth it. These experiences are bringing you that much closer to a healthier life.

Your autoimmune disease affects more than just you. It also affects your kids. This is why it’s so important to keep your health a priority. It’s worth it in the long run, even if it means leaving your kids for a day or so.

Leaving your babies is always difficult. It’s especially hard when you’re heading toward a doctor’s visit to help you better understand your autoimmune disease. Although it is difficult, you can get through it. There are ways, like the ones suggested above, to make it more positive for you and your little ones. Take a deep breath, prepare as much as possible, and remember that it will be worth it.


About the Author
Katie Cleary is founder of  She lives with her autoimmune conditions and her family in Austin, Texas.

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